I was hanging out with my friend Jen today and we were talking about relationships. She mentioned this quote to me and it got me thinking.
I had a circle of friends at one point that was unhealthy for me. I didn't like the person that I was and in order to change, I had to change my circle. It was so hard. It disintegrated friendships, it hurt feelings and it affected people that weren't directly involved. Seriously, it sucked.
The next circle of friends was the polar opposite. I had healthy relationships. I liked who I was. But because life is life, some of those friends moved away.
Not that I am putting out a want ad for a new circle of friends or anything, I can be choosy about who I open up to and become vulnerable with. I'm old enough now that I don't need to always be surrounded by people to feel worth.
To quote Switchfoot, of course, "This is your life. Are you who you wanna be?"
I am who I want to be (with room to grow, of course) and if what Jim Rohn says is true, I want to be a great average of those five people. I want to be as Christ-like as I can be, sinner though I am. And not just for me, but for those around me! I want those around me to be a great average as well. If we can cultivate relationships that have no barriers, full of trust, uplifting, encouraging and accountable, we CAN be that great average. Choose friends that are going to lift you up, not bring you down. Toxicity is like a disease; before you know it, it has seeped into who you are.
I have great friends, old and new, that I know will lift me up. And I am excited to see who else God brings into my life.
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